My parents are filing for custody of my 9 week old daughter…?
Posted: September 15th, 2010 | Author: admin | Filed under: Questions | Tags: arraignment, bad mother, best friend, damages, delt, full custody, good mother, joke, legal custody, little brother, mom, parole officer, Pocket knife, punches, reputation, saturday night, wedding reception, yes my brother | 12 Comments »Ok, long story short, my husband got into a fight Saturday night, at our wedding reception, with my little brother *yes, my brother is 18* It was over a prank about messin’ with my husband’s car. So my husband used the tip of his pocket knife to let the air out of my brother’s tire. Well, my brother went out and kicked my husband in the head. They started pushing each other and throwing punches at each other. Well, my husband accidentally cut my brother’s wrist and sent my brother into surgery to repair the damages. Needless to say, my husband was arrested, has a 75k bond. The problem I am having is my mom knows all the judges in our county because she is a parole officer. Now, because she is mad at me, she has filed for full custody of my 9 week old daughter. She stated that she feels my daughter is in danger, which she isn’t. Anyway, she has A LOT of pull in the legal system, and has a good standing reputation. I fully believe she can take my daughter from me. My question is this…can I sign a paper placing my daughter with my best friend temporarily until this is all delt with? If my mom says my daughter is not safe with me, but my daughter is in physical legal custody of my best friend, can my mom legally take my daughter from my best friend?
Ok, I posted this question for my friend……please help her
Ok, I posted the question for my friend..l am the person she wants to sign custody over to me because her mom wants to take her daughter…This isn’t a joke. I am not the "friend" that’s loosing her daughter. This happened on Saturday night, and yes, this is Sunday. They requested that the papers be started when they started the papers for her husband’s arraignment in the morning. She is not a bad mother. She is a very good mother who is scared she is going to loose her daughter, and to protect her, she wants me to take care of her until this is delt with. There is no chance I would fight her when she is ready to take custody back. She is not unstable, or crazy, or out of her mind. She is interested in what’s best for her daughter. That’s about it. Please stop with the hateful messages…she is not doing this for any reason other than to protect her daughter.
tonalc2: just for the record, it’s not just someone I met on the street…it’s my best friend of a dozen years…She is my kids’ god mother, and her daughter is my god daughter.
Scpall: yes this is a serious question…I am not some idiot like you that just sits around and posts stupid comments to rack up points on something like yahoo answers…get a life…
anssicot…: did you read the whole story? He didn’t pull the knife out to stab him…he had it out and after a shoving match, he ACCIDENTALLY cut her little brother…
Randy: read the added details above…I posted it that way to avoid the excess confusion…guess it didn’t work lol
comeback…: He doesn’t have anger problems…the brother put paint stripper on the husband’s car as a prank…husband was going to get him back by letting the air out of his tires by pushing the tip of the knife into the valve stem of the tire. So, the brother initiated it with stripping the paint off the car…
Your "friend’s" daughter should be okay to stay with her own mom. What happened with the dad fighting shouldn’t have any bearing on where the child lives. It was a wedding reception. They were probably drinking. People make stupid decisions under the influence. Have her talk with her mother. Sorry about the "little" brother…What a mess!
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The grandma should only make herself available to help her daughter out. She’s got a job already, she doesn’t need to add to her life like that…besides, the child will end up spending most of the time with a babysitter while she’s working…which would probably be you anyway.
I don’t understand why the child had to be put into anyone’s custody, because the mom didn’t go to jail.
I am not a legal expert, but I think it would be obvious that if you give up physical custody of your daughter to someone who’s not even a relative, you would be strengthening your mother’s case.
Get yourself a lawyer.
Are you serious about this? Like this is a serious question? Wow…
If the courts deemed that the child would be safer in temporary custody with someone other than that child’s parent, a grandparent, especially one in such good standing, would have a much better chance at gaining custody then a friend. A note written by a parent isn’t legally acceptable, it has to be done by the judge.
You need a good lawyer to work on your behalf, and also to deal with a person who has violence behavior at the same time. I can understand why mom is filing for full custody of your child. Violence is far for what a child needs in their own life. Seek out counseling as well.
dont sign any papers giveing the baby away. your mom will have to prove unfit mother or dangerous living standards but if she does know alot of legal people you can ask for a change of vinew which will make them have court in another county.
Your daughter could be in danger if your husband is so violent as to get out a knife and act like this.
Just get a good lawyer but your mother might have a point.
Yes you can sign legal custody over to a friend (or the friend can sign legal custody over to someone else…which ever story you are going with) but the problem may become if that person will sign custody BACK again. If not, you (or your friend) can find that the rights to their child have been signed away and they can’t get them back.
If your mother (or your friends mother) has that much legal pull though, as you claim or your friend claims, then she could get around this maneuver if she wanted to.
I’ll be darned if I can still figure out why you would lie on an anonymous internet forum like this though. Makes me wonder what else you haven’t been forthcoming with and it doesn’t bode well for any court case you, or your friend, may be involved in if you can’t even tell the truth here. Good luck. Either you or someone else is going to need it.
well, i do agree with the mother about the kid being in danger since that guy carries around a knife and has a big temper?? who would bring a knife to their wedding anyway……. i don’t think your friends parents should take your friends baby away from her because she didn’t do anything wrong…but, the husband on the other hand…if i were in that position, i’d say he should do whatever the judge says and also go to anger management. i’d care a lot more about my brother who obviously had severe injuries and my baby than a guy with anger problems. he shouldn’t of cut her brothers tires anyways. that’s totally out of line. and the brother kicing the husband in the head wasn’t good to do either but still.
maybe, if your friend moves back to her parents house temporarily, until the husband situation is dealt with AND goes to anger management classes, then there shouldn’t be any custody battles.
i hope things go okay for your friend. she shouldn’t even waste 75k on her husband when he caused a lot of damage to her brother….and her baby is on the line. cause after all, blood family matters a lot more.
Are you sure your not writing scripts for one of those Bridezilla or Redneck Wedding TV shows? This is unbelievable…really it is.
Your Mother is a PO Officer and she wants to take custody of your 9 week old Child. Well from what you have said, I can see why your Mother is concerned. No you can not sign a paper giving your daughter to your Friend. It is not legal. BUT what is legal , that your Mother can apply for custody, if enough proof is that your child is in danger, being with the Parents. So you need to be ready. Department of Human Services will come when you least expect it and be structured with the Local Police. They will remove the child and place it in Foster care, for a time and do a massive investigation, before they turn the child over to anybody. They will even check your Mother out. Once that is done they will place the child. At least if your Mother fights for custody, your family will know where the Innocent baby will be. But if your Mother is denied, the child will go into the Foster care system and you will not know where or who she is with. How could this have been prevented ? I could lecture you and now that shit is happening, you will soon get the drift. You both need to grow up.
it sounds like your daughter shouldn’t be living with you. let her stay with your parents for a while until everything is cooled off.